What’s stopping you?
You know those conversations you have that become key turning points in your life? This question was one of those conversations.
An important question
I was first asked this question back in January 2015. I was talking with my psychologist about how much I loved sport, and how I’d been thinking about doing a triathlon for about 10 years. She challenged me. What’s stopping you?’.
Such a good question.
It really caused me to pause and think. Good point! What WAS stopping me?
What’s stopping you?
In that situation, and in many others since, the only thing (usually) stopping me from making a first step, trying something new or putting myself out there was myself, my limiting beliefs and a negative mindset.
Whether it was that I didn’t believe I could do it, or that I was afraid I wouldn’t be good enough, the only thing holding me back from doing something I had wanted to do for a long, long time, was me.
That question motivated me to join my local triathlon club and enter Slateman Sprint triathlon three months later.
If you’ve followed me for a while, you may be aware that that first race resulted in me entering Ullswater Olympic triathlon, then Rubicon middle distance triathlon and ultimately deciding to commit to Ironman Wales (plus a couple other 70.3s along the way).
While I still love triathlon, my Ironman training led me to discover my true passion – cycling (especially time trialling).
Feel the fear and do it anyway.
The second time I was asked this question was January this year (again by my psychologist). I wanted to go freelance in my business as a sports dietitian, but I was afraid.
Afraid I wouldn’t get enough clients.
Afraid I wasn’t good enough as a sports dietitian.
Afraid I would fail.
I was reminded that those fears would never go away, and that if creating my own business was my passion and dream, then I needed to go for it and not let all that negative self-talk nonsense hold me back.
It was one of the hardest leaps I’ve had to take in my life. I’m not going to say it’s been an easy journey. I have learnt a lot. But I have never once regretted taking that jump.
Life is too short to live in regret
You never know where things will lead to. Sometimes decisions work in our favour. Other times they don’t.
But if we live in fear and hold ourselves back we’re never going to get to where we want to go.
Facing our fears helps us to grow and become stronger. It can be hard. But it’s worth it.
What’s stopping you from making that first step towards achieving your goals?